Blush - self pleasure as prayer
Dear ones,
it has been a moment, but here I am once again, laying myself onto the altar.
I am creating something I’m truly, breath-catchingly excited about.
A 4-week group container called “blush - self pleasure as prayer”. Not just a class, more like a journey. Or better yet, let’s call it a portal, because hopefully it will open up your body in entirely new ways.
Did you just read self-pleasure and group coaching container and immediately met an edge? Good, notice it. It is an edge for me, too. This new offering is stretching me in the best way, making me write and speak about something I have always believed to be sacred -
self-pleasure.
erotic aliveness.
sensual awakening.
We really don’t talk about it enough. Or maybe we do, but behind closed doors. Or maybe in a way that feels performative.
When I speak of pleasure - especially my self-pleasure ceremonies, it is because it lights me up when I do.
I’m saying:
“Don’t you want to feel this too?”
“Don’t you want to touch your own aliveness in this way?”
“Don’t you want to meet yourself again, through your own skin, on your own terms?”
When we touch ourselves like a prayer, we can open parts of ourselves that have been hiding. A self-pleasure practice not to release, but for return.
I remember when I was a teenager and felt deeply connected to Mother Mary, but didn’t want to embarrass myself in front of my friends, by having my Holy Mary statue on my nightstand. So often I would quickly open the drawer of my nightstand and throw her right in there to hide - right next to my first pink bunny vibrator.
I smile about this memory so much. The sacred and the profane. Always always side by side. A certain holy irreverence that was always mine.
Over the years, I’ve come to understand that self-pleasure is not just about climax (though I don’t mind). It certainly isn’t about a collection of battery operated devices.
It is not something that should be left for when a partner is not available, the kids are in bed, or done only in secret.
Self-pleasure is a ritual.
A ceremony with oneself.
You are the medicine. You are the altar AND you are the offering.
Self-pleasure is a way to learn to move our bodies for pleasure without performance, to touch ourselves without a goal, to listen to the subtle YES and the sacred NO.
To remember that my body is not something I owe - it is something I honor.
My relationship with my own self-pleasure practice is one of deep reverence.
It is where I meet myself.
Where I shed what is not mine.
It is where I learn to love myself more deeply.
It is where I learn to love my body, exactly the way it is.
Where I soften back into the holy, humming woman that I am.
To soften back into my wild animal body.
“Blush” has already taught me something, as I’ve been creating it. To get out of my fucking comfort zone and start sharing what I truly believe in, even if it may meet resistance, or if my mother in law will raise an eyebrow.
While I’m nervous, I am even more heart-open and pulsing with excitement about who will join me in this sacred container.
Do you feel the pulse, too?
Blush is not a sex course by the way. It is a safe space to reclaim self-pleasure as ceremony. A four-week journey into the sensual, sovereign, holy relationship you have with your own pleasure body.
Leaning on my work with plant allies (because, let’s play just a bit harder, combining sacred medicine space terms with the erotic) I structured this offering into SET - SETTING - CEREMONY - and INTEGRATION.
SET - soften into presence, meet the texture of pleasure and resistance and lovingly explore the shadows and stories that shape our relationship to self-touch
SETTING - falling into beauty. Altar-building, space setting, boundary cultivating and connecting womb and voice
CEREMONY - sacred tools (think hands, wands, feathers, flowers, rope etc) and practices as invitations to expand sensation. Desire-mapping. Exploring different types of orgasms and pathways to reach them.
INTEGRATION - weaving the wisdom of pleasure into daily life. Embodied reflection to anchor this journey.
Four live sessions in which I will use
embodied movement and breathwork
somatic inquiry and reflection
voice and womb connection
self-touch practices (always safe. never sexualized. always an invitation, never an expectation)
to listen to the soft song of the body.
“Blush” is perfect for you, if…
you want to reclaim self-pleasure as sacred and for YOURSELF
you long to soften into your body’s wisdom
you are ready to meet shame with tenderness
you are longing for a safe space to explore what self-pleasure as a ritual could be like
you know everyone we meet in this space will be our student and our teacher
you want to live more turned on, as in sensually alive in your body
Why, Eva couldn’t you make this a course, where I can just hide out in my bedroom watching by myself as you talk about all of this?
Well, that would be a bit boring, wouldn’t it? It is important to me that this offering is ALIVE. That I can leave the structure and follow the flow of wherever we need it to flow.
I trust so deeply that the right women will show up to this and having virtual live sessions will allow us to build relationship, to stretch us, but to also make us feel held and supported. It will allow me to guide you intuitively. To choose the practices needed each time. To linger, when it feels good. To laugh when something is funny. To cry, when something needs to be released.
This first round, live sessions will be August 6, August 13, August 20 and August 27 and I will make the recordings available.
Sessions will start at 7pm CST and will be about 75-90 minutes each.
The energetic exchange that allows me to keep this container small, holy and truly magical is $333.
Honestly,
did any of this make you blush?
Is something stirring in your chest?
Are your thighs slightly humming?
Does your curiosity slightly outweigh your hesitations?
Then you are so welcome here.
You can claim this for yourself here.
Blush petals all over my soul and a full-body YES -
love,
Eva